Category Archives: Advice

Importance of Love All, Be There, and Leave None Behind


Hey you,

There are many things that go on in the world. Lots of negativity and things that we don’t think about what people or societies various cultures are going through.

It seems mental health has becoming more popular topic recently and awareness’s have been coming into the spotlight. Mental health is important for everyone and shouldn’t be taken lightly. At some point, we will have an off day and that’s fine. But, what if it goes on for long periods of time and doesn’t seem to go away? Well, then, that’s when people should take care of themselves and people should start to care about those around them. People react in all shapes and forms. Some may act like their typical selves with slight change but maybe hard to pick up on their clues while others may start to withdraw, personality/attitude changes, start bodily harm, and etc. It’s sad to see someone go through negativity. How does one help those around those who are going through negativities. A couple examples on how to help those around you can always to talk to them about what is bothering them, do some favorite things with them, and/or help provide or find support system for them, if need be.

Another thing is that times are changing and during that change, so will the people. Yea, life happens with everyone and sometimes we lose track of people and things around us which can be a blend of mixed feelings. But, it is important to always check up on people, family,  long-time friends and acquaintances, and other people that may have an impact on your life.

It’s never a good thing to leave none behind. If a person is left behind then it may lead to a mystery on how that person changed and what got them to the point to where they are at. It could make them feel isolated and/or alienated from those around them and confused to get back into their previous life that they are used to. So, don’t leave anyone behind and accept and be around them to make their lives better.

Remember to love and care about those around you.

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Love all, nothing less


Some of you remember one of the blogs posted not too long ago explaining why we're only human and all lives matter. This is similar and if listened to we can all live in a better society. We can all live to dream that this will come true. So, beyond this paragraph you can decide if you want to read further.

When looking at multiple news outlets, there are those standing up for equality for rights and fair treatment. There are still a lot of maltreatments and corruption going on out there in the world. But, how far is enough or too much? Well, that's a million dollar question, we may never actually know.

We should spread care, love and kindness to all. We should not hate, corrupt, and evil from the world. We're all human, there's no sub-humans. Yes, we're all different colors, have different religions, culture, sexual orientations, political ideas, and etc but that doesn't make us (humans) any less than one another. History happened so we would not hope to be repeated in future history.

Would there ever be a time when there is going to be a time of peace and no violence?

I ask you for simple thing.
Will you love the people around you? Will you help stop the stigmas and violence going on in the world? Can you help the world become equal for all those who reside in the world?

Remember to love one another and be kind to your neighbor.

NO means NO


     When you tell someone no it should mean no. You can tell anybody no or turn down any situation. No should mean no not yes. Yes should mean yes not no. Why can't people comprehend that?

 

     It does not mean that the person has that some sort of unspoken permission in doing something that is not needed or against the other person's will.

 

     For example, if a man is trying to get lucky and is not taking no for answer. So, he picks a random girl that may be willing to give some time to give to the desperate guy but she decides things are not exactly normal about this guy and a lot of red flags are up and waving around. She tells him no numerous times and he isn't taking no for an answer. She leaves the location and he follows her and decides that she "deserves it" and rapes her. He says she "deserves it" because of her outfit. She didn't "deserve it" because she clearly told him no and her outfit was not skimpy and was covering the majority of her skin, she wasn't acting desperate as he was, and was not being flirty or that interested in the people hitting on her. Was she a victim in this case? Yes, she was, she never asked for this to happen for her. The guy got away after he was finished with his task.


This is probably a bad example but was trying to make a point

 

     This also can go along with so many other situations as well. If a person doesn't feel comfortable with a situation or being around a person or group of people. It is OK to say NO. Just follow your intuition and instinct or that gut feeling. You are the one who is in control of your own life. Things will fall into place and you will find your true self and figure out who your true friends are.

 

Remember to love one another and treat others the way you want to be treated.

 

Remember if you don't feel comfortable with a person or situation. Do what feels right and say no or leave.

Self Acceptance, changes of myself


Over the years, I knew that I never did fit in any form. From trying to fit in with the crowds at school, work, friends, and etc, kind of sadening ain’t it? Oh well!

Growing up, I remember growing never fitting in anywhere, trying to go try out for sports, the school band, and school groups, all seem to be a bust. I did try to make friends even though some worked out compared to others. I never really had that many friends but since it was a small school, everyone seemed to know everyone and overall seemed to be alright with everyone getting along. Of course there seems to be a few blips of chaos or acting out that someone got into a bad fight or argument with one another person. I wasn’t exactly a loner or some shy and quiet person. Of course I knew what to avoid, how to defend myself and be sassy if I needed to be, and who my real friends were going to be since before high school. I was an extremely fast learner and knew how to read peoples personalities, mindset and mannerisms like you wouldn’t believe.

I also remember starting to liking the dark side of life since middle school. The dark side of life that I liked was the paranormal, oddities, sideshows, mediums, gothic history and fashion, and  anything unusual. I guess my personality changed from that point in middle school. Of course a lot of things happened since then to now. Some loved ones past away, people coming and going, and other things that may be sensitive to talk about.

However I never did get into gothic fashion until recently. Darker colors seem to fit into what I may be. I am slowly switching over from colors to dark. I felt like gothic part was there for some quite time it’s just hasn’t shown into fashion yet until here recently. I was asked why am I dressing so dark and told that gothicism is gross. I told them have you ever sat down and had a descent conversation with me recently? Have you ever once tried to get to know me? How well do you actually know? Do you even know half the stuff I liked? Do you even know me? I’m not this shy, quiet loner girl as you or others make me out to be. Do YOU know me personally.

Yea of course I know that there’s stigmas against gothic community but you’ll have to get to know that person before you judge them. For example of stigmas one of my favorite YouTubers (@itsblackfriday) is a part of the gothic community which she faced stigmas and discrimination in Paris and Prague. Which it could’ve been handled differently.

So, if you’re a part of the gothic community, what do you think? Would I be considered a part of the community? I’m not sure if I’m considered a baby bat, teen, or elders even though the personality came before clothing? What are you thoughts?

Invisibilia


Although this isn’t exactly advice but figured maybe someone could learn.

Being invisible is basically where no one wants to recognize you or wanting interaction with you.

Being invisible does have its advantages and disadvantages. Some of the advantages are that you can actually have peace away from people, have your own free time, do your own thing, and be yourself. Some of the disadvantages are that people often overlook you, think that you’re that loner quiet person when you may actually not be,  some overlook you so much they may not want interaction, and often have misconceptions about the entirety of you.

In some cases it may be annoying cause when wanting to be known. You want people to recognize what is going on instead of those people doing their normal routine. There could be the normal routine of work, school, chit chat, or some sort of other form of activity.

So can we break the habit of being there in the crowd? It’s possible depends on the person or place.

There IS Hope


If you are a person who is either depressed, debating on harming themselves, contemplating suicide, or doing anything else negative to themselves do NOT do it.

Look how far you’ve come into this life. You do care to someone. It might be your parent figure, the person sitting beside you in class, your neighbor, a co-worker, an acquaintance or that one random stranger. You were put on Earth for some reason.

There’s always help waiting to help you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help there’s always help waiting to help you.

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